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This really resonates, especially as a pregnant woman preparing for the delivery of her second child. I have found it to be true, as the Bible says, that the pain of childbirth loses its immediacy (and is almost forgotten) because of the joy of having your child. But as the birth approaches again, I am remembering how hard and painful it was, and it is frightening to face that it is coming again. I told someone once that brith requires a descent to some place so dark and deep that you touch death with your fingertips and then come slowly back up to light and life. Of course it is a fearful thing, and we live in a world now that wants to believe that anything frightening or uncomfortable or messy or even just boring can be avoided, or outsourced, or erased.

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Acuity and elegance combined, a joy to read.

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I love how Paris had to pretend it was a "hard" decision to use a surrogate, again.= She is doing what many wealthy people do - outsource the icky or quotidien tasks. Just like she doesn't clean her house and her husband doesn't cut his own law, she won't have her own baby because she can pay someone else to do it. By scary, she means her body will change and in ways she cannot control so it's easier to have someone else do it. Of course she used her own eggs. The desire to have a biological child is just too strong but the desire to limit yourself and relinquish control over your body is just as strong. It's vanity mixed with entitlement and disregard for others, including her own child.

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Great post.

The West has become obsessed by the internal world. We run away from that which we can’t control and use technology to insulate ourselves from them.

Prayer, in contrast, focusses us away from ourselves and to the Outside. It’s the way we can personally interact and negotiate with forces we can’t control.

And it helps us yo understand how we should act towards death, birth, success and suffering.

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Very interesting.

Most people, especially men, are not even in their bodies, let alone aware they're in the 'wrong' one.

Young children are in their bodies, the moment and in self sufficiency; they have to been taught that there might be something 'wrong' with them.

This has money all over it. Like medicating moods in children as young as 2. Totally absurd, but now accepted as kinda normal. There's drugs for ADHD and the harm done to children by distracted and overworked parents to save parents having to spend their physicality and time with their kids.

Now more money can be made with the whole sex thing. We know it's a disaster already happening. But it's already being accepted as kinda normal.

The animals in the sausage are also not real. They must be abstracted or we'd never accept the way they live in crates for their short lives, looking already like sausages. It takes years of education and conditioning of a child to remove its natural compassion.

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Rewilding the self ?

I’m for it !

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And women are told that they must have botox and surgery and hormones and potions to "regain their youth", as if that were a possible (or even desirable) outcome. I am no more young than Tom Neuwirth is a girl. To paraphrase the Grinch "Maybe life, he thought, doesn't come from a store. Maybe life, perhaps, means a little bit more."

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Offered for comment and not necessarily for truth:

I have read it that humans in the West have abandoned God as unnecessary, because they no longer need fear premature death or the deaths of their children.

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In The Dialectic of Sex: The Case For A Feminist Revolution- (1970), Shulimath Firestone deplored pregnancy as disgusting and barbaric, and compared giving birth to "shitting a pumpkin." Women would not and could not be liberated, she claimed, until they had cast off the burden of biological reproduction. The technological transcendence of childbirth, therefore, was a matter of urgent moral necessity. Although it enjoyed a heyday in the 70's, The Dialectic of Sex, I believe, has been mostly forgotten or marginalized by third wave feminism, likely due to the "gender essentialism" or other such problematic elements (i.e., heresies) lurking within its pages. But in his essay on the history of transhumanism (2005), Nick Bostrom cited Firestone's book as a key transhumanist text. He was correct to do so. It perfectly anticipates and articulates the widespread repugnance with sexual embodiment that drives contemporary transgenderism--which as Mary Harrington rightly notes, must be seen as the vanguard of the broader Transhuman movement.

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The really BIG lesson of the transgender fad sweeping the Western world is that many (perhaps most) people are sheep - philosophically-speaking - and especially teenagers where the peer pressure is at its most extreme. The rampant trangender fad has revealed the Liberal democratic ideal of a populace educated into independent-mindedness for the fairytale it always was. So society's real choice is between a loose conformity with certain established basic social mores that are not much up for debate or......alternatively, a loose conformity to every ephemeral fad emerging from an academia-cosseted malcontent intelligentsia.

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The following is a personal illustration of Mary’s thesis. 21 years ago I decided to use orthodonthia to correct minor crowding of my lower front teeth-which weren’t even visible. I was an attractive but insecure woman on the verge of middle age-39. During the consultation I mentioned that my smile lacked perfect symmetry. I was assured by that this could be easily achieved through “simple “ jaw realignment surgeries. The first surgery resulted in an agonizing and protracted “recovery”, and permanent nerve injury eventuating in several root canals. I was too traumatized to risk the second surgery; consequently and ironically the asymmetry is far more extreme. My vanity and zealous embrace of medical transformation destroyed my “looks”, the integrity of my dental structures and tissue and created a legacy of daily psychic and physical pain.

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My daughter, in Canada recently with her husband who was on a work conference, got talking to two London-based medics who were also at the conference. They both said they were now seeing people in their late 20s presenting with severe osteoporosis because of puberty blockers and 'transition' when they were younger. Neither would speak out publicly because of fear: fear of the aggressive 'trans' lobby. But if they and their medical colleagues would speak out together, to denounce the 'trans' ideology and to assert the reality of sex and biology, this evil ideology would disappear. As FDR said in the US in one of his famous fireside chats of the 1930s, 'All we have to fear is fear itself'. 'Fear' can be a very potent weapon in the wrong hands. As to prayer: of course. Without prayer, the universe and our seemingly puny place within it, is genuinely terrifying. 'Male and female' He made them, as the Judaeo-Christian scriptures tell us. Abandoning our Christian inheritance has led us to this modern madness.

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Intriguing that you should link this to a lack of prayer.

Prayer to a sovereign deity has been abandoned - and been given (by votive offerings of sacrificial pain and of cash) to a technological genie, who promises to grant your wishes. In truth, it has never been life that's beyond our control, but God.

The attempt of transhumanist elites to lay hold of that wish-beyond-nature is characterised by

C.S. Lewis' Uncle Andrew (Magician's Nephew): "I was learning a good deal in other ways (it wouldn't be proper to explain them to a child) about Magic in general. ...I had to get to know some - well, some devilish queer people, and go through some very disagreeable experiences. That was what turned my head grey. One doesn't become a magician for nothing. My health broke down ini the end."

We should pray that people consider the cost of such 'magic' - and that our wishes don't come true.

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Seems to me that selling babies is another form of human trafficking. It's past time that we end this practice.

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You're a hotdog, but you better not try to hurt her, Frank'n'furter.

See also, Meatloaf.

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It would be fine if these people want to change their bodies, as adults. That they focus so on children is pathological.

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